If I’m being completely honest, I struggle with mom guilt and I cry the night before going back to work after every break… I would be lying if I said I didn’t cry after a four day weekend one time. Thankfully, I love my job otherwise I really don’t think I could do it. Regardless if you love your job or not, mom guilt is a real thing and leaving your babies with someone else all day is never easy.
I remember I actually cried for a week straight before returning to work after my maternity leave with Oakley. She was so tiny and I couldn’t imagine leaving a 6 week old baby with someone else when all I had done was snuggle her for the first 6 weeks of her life. I really don’t think I ever laid her down.
I could go on and on but the point of this post isn’t to make things worse, it’s to say I get it, I can relate, and the one thing that’s made it easier on me (besides enjoying my job and having a great babysitter) is…
“It’s harder on you than it is on them.” I’ve actually heard this from quite a few moms whose kids are grown now and I finally believe it. Oakley started at a new daycare this year and out of the four days she’s went, she cried twice when I dropped her off. Of course the first time, I cried the whole way to school. Thank you #pregnancyhormones. The second time, her babysitter said to me, “okay mom I’m going to rip the bandaid off. I promise you she stops crying by the time you get to your car.”
Every time that I picked her up in the afternoon she was so excited to tell me that she played baby dolls and cars. She usually wants me to play with her once I get there. Although a job you love and a wonderful babysitter makes things easier, the mom guilt is real and it’s hard but I really do believe that it’s harder on us than it is our kids. We’re doing the best we can and we need to encourage ourselves the way we would our other mom friends. Can you relate? Do you have any tips for overcoming mom guilt?